15 Oct Increasing Your Range of Emotional Creativity
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If we can suspend our judgements and belief systems for a moment and participate in an exercise of thinking: we created the life we are currently living based on all the multiple choices we have made in our lifetime. Everything we have done has been a co-creation with those involved for a reason. Is it to experience specific emotions and learn to master the lessons that are there to be learned from them?
I do believe this happens to us, but instead of experiencing the emotion and learning from it, we become the emotion and can get lost in it. How many different ways do you think you have created your own emotional challenges to experience the depth and breadth of your own feelings? Are you pleased with the result?
When I listen to clients complain about how awful life can be and how difficult their particular part of it is, I congratulate them on being so capable; being able to handle such challenges and still keep going. It’s something that many people do not recognize in their own lives.
Getting clients to see how they are complicit in the co-creation of their situation is often the most difficult part of healing any problem. It’s learning that every decision we have ever made in life has brought us to where we are in life. If we had made a different decision at any point, then our emotional experience would have been different. Would it still have given us the opportunity to fully experience a particular emotion, learn how to transmute it and then let it go? That is the question you have to ask yourself.
You can be as creative as you want in developing your range of emotional competency. The greater the range in which you can create comfort, the more control you have over your own spiritual growth. Much too often, we experience an unpleasant emotion, and then immediately bury it in our subconscious with the hope that we will never have to experience it ever again. This is what happens when we feel fear or suffer a perceived loss in our lives.
Grieving the loss of someone dear to us or the loss of a relationship we thought would last forever is probably the most common of emotions that we bury. Our thoughts all create energy no matter to whom they are directed. If we think about ourselves in a negative way, we become that energy whatever the picture may be that we have of ourselves. These thoughts, transformed into energy, can be stored in our bodies for years before we ever realize that they are a problem. Think of e-motions as ‘energy-in-motion.’ They all have to go somewhere once your mind creates them.
I have worked with many, many clients who were experiencing anxiety and major panic attacks for no apparent reason. In almost all cases, the anxiety being experienced wasn’t anything related to their current life. It was the result of buried emotions from previous fear-based situations. Some were caused by emotional, physical, or sexual abuse as a child. Others were simply unresolved grieving for a perceived loss that was never brought to closure. That is why it is important to learn how to allow yourself to feel all of your emotions, no matter how painful, and transmute them to place of neutrality in your own heart and mind.
Everything we feel in life is either based in love or fear; from one end of the spectrum to the other. Even with love, we can experience the fear of losing it, which is all controlled by how we perceive the world around us, and its effect on us. Your ability to feel is the most important skill that you have to develop as a spirit having a human experience. Learning to exercise your emotional flexibility and range is, by far, the most valuable gift you can give yourself.
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